DP and I have been on/off for many years- posted here a few times too- here I am back a-fucking-gain.
after what was an OK 2014, we had a huge row (due to him fucking losing it, and my trying to calm him down) and we are back in the turd again- and Its depressing me so much. I feel so low- it takes all joy our of my life. I dread weekends and evenings. basically I love my kids so much but when I am with them, he is there. With the joys of:
screaming rows (him screaming!)
OR. ignoring me, saying "whatever"
unable to discuss anything in an adult manner as he revert to shouting, and bringing up old grudges
reverting to scarily high anger within a short time period
shouting in front of the children-
Is it normal that when someone shouts at me my heart beats and I get scared?
he is trying to have me put my name against an investment, and given how bad things are I have declined- this has NOT gone down
Here is the problem, he is the SAHD! he has no job, no money. If we split I am basically turfing him out and making him homeless. I can just imagine how he would turn kids against me if I did that.
But how do you split up , or even give an ultimatum when they wont listen? I am serious if I try and speak he just tells me to leave him alone
I feel like I have festering angry ogre that I cant get rid off, and cant communicate with. I feel like living with him and his anger is my lot forever as I am too scared to deal with the problem
anyone been there????
TIA
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stopfuckingshoutingatme · 28/09/2015 13:39
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