Th ex in question was a terrible abusive relationship that ended 8 years ago. I have very much moved on and am happily married, but i have a child(DD) with my ex so we have had to stay in contact and i have always struggled to see him fortnightly-i have only recently managed to speak properly to him about anything. All our contact has been through our respective partners up until early this year (every attempt to fix this ended in arguments) when he broke up with her.
It came to light that my ex was abusing his previous partner throughout their relationship too, she contacted me to apologise for never believing me and for causing grief throughout the years. Anyway despite all this she has decided to be amicable with the ex (i suppose for the sake of their children)
This has caused something and i'm unsure if it is jealousy or guilt within me. Am i doing it wrong should i all these years have forged a fake amicable relationship with my ex despite everything? The attempts i made early on always ended up with my exes temper flaring and this would make me retreat. I want to do best for my daughter, should i offer an olive branch now, part of me worries he will think this means i forgive him and his behavior which he has never admitted or apologized for. Or should i carry on how it is, things are by no means perfect but i don't want to make things worse for my daughter either.
Does anyone have a decent relationship with the father/mother of their child from abusive relationships? or is this the exception to the rule?
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averyoriginalusername · 26/09/2015 19:59
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