Losing my best mate ........

[Crystaltips]

My best mate has recently started up her own business .... and having once been a stressed SAHM .... she is now a stressed ( part-time )business woman.
We used to chat everyother day on the phone and see each other about twice a week. The majority of the time I "counselled" her about her ailing marriage.

Now though ( understandably ) things have changed and she has less time on her hands. I haven't seen her for ages and she does not return my calls.
She seems totally preoccupied and ( when we do meet up ) it's all she ever talks about .... Historically I have helped her and gave her advice.
Now though - she patronises me .... as my "life is not full enough as I am just a mum" ( her words not mine ).
SHe has said ...
"what I want to see you doing with your life is ...... " ...
"don't you feel like you aren't achiveing much ?"
"there's more to life than being just a mum ..."

OMG ... it just goes on ....

The thing is .... I'd rather not call her than put up with the sympathetic and condescending comments ...

I am the one who ( thankfully ) has a larger social circle than her ... and don't feel the loss as much as I feel I should. BUT I feel that when her euphoria is over - she might be rather on her own.
Please don't tell me to wait patiently and smile when she "comes back to me" but I'm not feeling so charitable at the moment ... as I feel rather cast aside
More of a rant really ... thanks for listening ....
Any advice ?

[Callisto]

If you're going to lose her anyway why not tell her what you've posted here ie stop being an arse and messing up your friendship? Sorry not to be more constructive.

[Quadrophenia]

I would back off until you feel you can speak to her, i am in a scarily similar position and TBH I just don't bother as much, I don't want to sever the friendship completely but am happy to see it change.

[scatterbrain]

friendships ebb and flow - they come and go.

you are just in differenmt places in your lives right now.

you've got other friuemds - so focus on them and when she comes back you can decide whether you want her back.

[Crystaltips]

Fio - I do tell her that I am happy.... because i am
My life is chaotic at the best of times .... but I often thank the "powers that be" for my life .... and dread the day that my bubble bursts..
maybe in her eyes I have my life on a plate .... I have suspected for a while that there was a touch of the green-eyed monster ...

BUT this drifting apart does not bother me too much .... and secretly that's what bothers me ....