Now that my breakup with ex-h is public knowledge, I'm finding that there's certain 'lines' people have used when mentioning our impending divorce (if they say anything at all). Sometimes said out of kindness, or disinterest, or discomfort. I'm finding it irritating although I know generally people mean well.
Some of the gems I've heard:
'But you always looked so happy' (yes I was very good at hiding the pain I was going through)
'You've hurt his male ego'. (used to explain ex-h's extremely shitty behaviour towards me post-breakup)
'It'll be nice for you to get some time free from the kids' (about my 'free' weekends every fortnight. Instead I spend these weekends missing the DC so much I never enjoy myself)
'We/I never liked him because of (insert event here)' (yes and you're telling me this now?)
'Don't worry you'll find someone else' (I don't want anyone else)
'Marriages are hard' (no shit. And divorces are just SO much easier)
'How are the DC?' (finding it extremely hard as it happens, like their whole world has come crashing down. Funnily enough people don't know how to respond if I say that).
I realise I just sound incredibly prickly and like nothing would be the 'right' thing to say. Overall I'm surprised by how rare it is for someone to say 'how are you?', which I guess is what I want to hear.
Anyone else had any gems from well meaning (or not so well meaning) people about their divorce?
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Things people say when you're getting divorced
nicknameidea · 21/09/2015 13:06
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