O.k. I have no barometer about what a relationship should be like anymore , only what my wife tells me is normal . She tells me everything about our relationship is perfectly normal and I'm paranoid etc etc. So we have been together 22 years. Ten years ago she had an affair , our child was just 2. This completely destroyed me as I knew the person. I forgave her mainly for our child but I still did love her. Since then the relationship is like this and I,m sure it's not right. She won,t kiss me, she won't cuddle , show any affection, is very critical of me , my looks ,clothes , personality, she decides when we will make love and use the term very loosely it is not love as I understand it, she just gets on and pleasures herself, saying she is to old for any cuddles or intimacy, she won't let me touch her, and she won't touch me.. She cannot look me in the eye when she says I love you, she does not sit next to me does not walk next to me, last year I popped over to check her old friends place and her car was on the drive, she said they were still friends and she was just visiting him. I now think it has never stopped. But I have no proof other than the above state of our relationship. Pleas give me some good advice as I feel empty and alone and sometimes hopeless. Our child is now 13 and I worry that the sometimes cold atmosphere in our home will. Affect her view on how normal relationships are. Am I paranoid, do I expect too much, I have just been made to believe that Ido but I just don't know
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Sorry about the topic but is my wife cheating on me
Ignatius · 12/09/2015 13:44
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