Everything going wonderfully with BF. Been about 15 months dating, a year dating exclusively and meaningfully. Holidayed together alone and with kids. No horrible behaviour, no tantrums, no boredom, still think he's my favourite person to hang out with, chat to, socialise with, holiday with, sleep with...you get the picture.
I am absolutely his 'girlfriend', he prioritises me and our time together although kids come first for both of us obviously, he's there when I need help, met his family, kids, even been away with with one of them. I don't feel insecure, unloved, taken for granted or fed up in any way. I love him to bits and can't imagine feeling this happy with anyone else and have never had such a healthy, drama free, respectful relationship. Never been so happy.
Only thing I hate is that he is still married to his wife although they have lived apart for 8 years, 2.5 years of which he lived with a previous girlfriend. I don't have any worries they will reunite at all. It just feels wrong that I am dating a married, albeit very separated, man. Thinks it's partly his apathy and aversion to paying the high solicitors' fees that he hasn't sorted it. Ex wife seems completely same. Not bothered about doing it either.
Think it will come down to me saying divorce by new year or jog on. Don't want to lose him by forcing his hand but don't want to be the OW. Sad. AIBU?
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Great relationship, no strife or grief, yet he's still not divorced. Deal breaker?
goodcompany2 · 05/09/2015 12:38
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