DP has a history of scrapping when he was younger I.e. Teens ,20s. Grew up in a rough household in a rough town.
DP doesn't really go out anymore and doesn't really drink. I am glad about this as I do not think he handles his drink at all. By not really going out anymore, I mean in the past two years he may have had a night out with the lads four times but every time something like the following happens. We went out Saturday with my friends. I arrive, he was there. Clear he had drunk too much. Looked maudlin. He had to take one of his friends home and on the way out the pub, a guy verbally abused his friend. DP took umbrage and pushed the guy. Bouncers chucked DP out as they thought a fight was brewing. He stood outside the pub looking in until I went out and told him to get home ASAP. He was being difficult and moody and saying he wanted to get back in the pub. It was deeply embarrassing.
Next night also entertaining friends we were in local nightspot picked by my friends. I was not keen to go as it gets lairy. We were standing next to a group of jamaican lads and two or three times men walking past racially abused them and started taunting them. DP lept forward each time to try to intervene and defend the lads. I had to physically hold him back at one point.
Been together 3 years. Thinking of leaving for exactly this reason. Can't stand it. Wears me down like I can't explain even though happens infrequently it is still one too many times if you see what I mean, kind of feel that in the future I would always be worrying about how he will behave if we let our hair down, On the plus side he has made huge moves not to go out. Doesn't attend stag dos, doesn't party with friends anymore in an indirect acknowledgement I think that he can't handle his drink and this kind of crap happens.
Help. Anyone got experience of this.
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Partner gets into physical fights with other men when drunk
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Rachelmaze1900 · 02/09/2015 15:54
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