Have you ever left a bad relationship for a possibly better one?

[mashapls420]

Hi guys,

So I've been dating my bf for over a year now. We have had our ups and downs. Most of our issues stem from him being a pathological liar, a video game addict and big drinker. We are both fairly young, I still haven't gotten a degree yet but he will soon be starting a new salary position. The issue now is, last January we had a fairly bad break up and I got romantically involved with a very good friend of mine who I had feelings for in the past but they died out and resurfaced when my bf and I broke up. My very good friend I met online and he lives in a different continent and when we met in person I guess he became attracted to me and tried to pursue me. I have feelings for him as well and we have a lot in common and my current bf knows this.. This friend of mine just finished his masters and wants to move across the world to live with me and start a life with me. But I don't know if I want to leave my current bf for this guy - just because he has a lot in common with my bf minus the pathological lying, video game addiction and drinking. What they have in common in that they are both poorly motivated trust fund babies. :\ As much as I have feelings for my best friend - I don't know if I want to leave my bf. Some of my friends tell me I should leave my bf because we are just bad for each other, don't respect each other and just depend on each other etc and that's the entire reason we are together, and that I should just date my best friend. Other people tell me I should stay with my bf and some other friends tell me I should just not get involved with either of them ad focus on myself. Which the last one may sound like a good idea. But I want to hear advice from other people who left really messy relationships for someone else, and if it improved or what their experience was. :( I'm young and need some wisdom and guidance please. Thank you.

[magiccatlitter]

I'm an old bag who has been where you are. My suggestion is to forget about guys for now and get your life sorted out as in getting a good education and career.

A guy should be a happy addition to the full life you already have rather than a replacement.

When the time come to choose someone, choose very wisely as the wrong one can really mess up your life for years.

Avoid any who are lazy, won't work, alcohol, drug, liars, cheaters, criminals, or other problems.

[ThisIsFolkGirl]

At the very least you should finish with your current bf. What's the poibt if staying with him?

I agree with the friends who say you should concentrate on yourself amd not date either of them. You don't have to be in a relationship with either of them.

[TopOfTheCliff]

Another vote here for dumping the lying drunk and enjoying the single life. You are at a stage in life where you need to put yourself first and these men are holding you back. Invest in your own career and raise your standards.

Both my DDs are early 20s and they have left BFs who weren't worthy (one cheated and the other was chronically mean). They are both now with more dynamic ambitious men who value them.

[pocketsaviour]

I did dump a piss-poor relationship with a lazy, alcoholic passive-aggressive man-child, and move straight on to the man who then became my husband.

In retrospect it would probably have been better for me to have some alone time before, but in practical terms it was difficult and I did end up moving in with H after about a month of seeing each other.

If things hadn't worked out between us I would have jumped from the frying pan into the fire though. I think I was lucky.