ive changed my name for this as dh has been coming on mn to find out what ive been saying.
i feel so stuck in this marraige.he works away alot,leavng me at home with the kids.i dont mind,but when he comes home hes just so different.
it has crossed my mind that hes having an affair,but he obviously denies this.
we used to be so happy,we never argued up until recently.hes changed so much.he says hes just tired,but i dont buy that for a second.
the minute hes home,hes shouting at the kids,swearing them,which upsets me so much and he knows this.when i say anything to him,he just tells me to f off.if i ask him anything,hes really moody and nasty in answering me.
he never used to be like this,and i just dont knwo what to do.ive asked him if he wants us to split up and he says no,and that he loves me,but i just dont feel love anymore.
ive got to the point where i dont want to speak to him incase he goes off on one on me.this morning i was brushing my hair and he said "have you seen how fat youve got"i had to fight back the tears.i know im not as thin as i used to be,but ive had kids,and ive not put that much weight on,i was a size 10 when we got together 12 years ago,and now im a 14/16.but i think thats due to kids and age!!
when i said i would diet he said "why,you arent going to get another man fancying you"
he puts me down all the time,he wont let me go out with my friends,and slags them off when i mention them.
we havent had sex for about 6 months,he said i repulse him.i had a mc at the beginning of the year,and he is constantly throwing it back in my face,saying ive got something wrong with me and that it was my fault.i look at him and i feel so sad.i remember how we used to be,and now its like hes a different person.i dont even know if i love him anymore.
i just dont know what to do.part of me says leave because its all over,and another part says i cant because of the kids.despite him being so awful to them,my dd thinks the sun shines out of his bum.itd break their heart if i took them away from him.
sorry this is so long,but needed to tell someone,it desnt matter if no one replies,i just wanted to get this off my chest.
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poohbearonachair · 27/11/2006 12:40
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