Hello,
I hope you all don't mind me posting, I read this forum daily however don't really post as I am not the best advise giver but hope others will be kind enough to offer some to me.
I've been with my husband for nearly 7 years, married for only 3 months, with 2 very young DC. We both jointly own a house, he pays the mortgage as I don't work and he does.
Basically I am just so so tired of him I feel worn to the ground and my confidence is at an all time low. I'm constantly walking on eggshells having to watch what I say and what I do in case I set him off, I feel like I can't just be 'me' anymore. His outbursts and put downs are always my fault and there is seldom an apology and if there is of course the insults always come thick and fast again not too long after.
I am a SAHM and to be honest I don't really enjoy it and have been looking to go back to work part time but haven't had any luck thus far. I get absolutely no time to myself barely, I am almost always with this kids and don't get me wrong I bloody love the bones of them but I barely see anyone do anything apart from baby talk, change nappies, do chores. I went out for an hour today just to the shop with my mum as I just needed to get some space a breather, that's already been thrown in my face 'you f*ed off for an hour today leaving me with the kids'. Seriously he works all week at a job he loves, barely sees them at a weekend as we are doing up our house and makes me feel guilty when I leave them with him for a short while to have a breather. He'd spent all the morning with my dad shopping for building supplies but it's ok for him and not me? I never ask for time to myself he says it's ok but it always get thrown back in my face at some point, so if I do go out I'm rushing, worrying I'm taking too long etc as I feel guilty.
Sorry I went on a bit of a rant there but it was nice to get it out, I don't speak to anyone about it. The final straw for me was today when he called me a 'joke' I just burst into tears in front of the kids I just couldn't help it. I already feel so low, he just kept ranting even though I was in floods of tears. He's now ignoring me bashing around like it's all my fault. I've probably nagged him too much about something that's not mine to nag about ie the building work he's doing. My confidence can't take anymore I just feel so crap at the moment the outbursts are getting more often and nastier and I don't want the children to have to see it.
I told him not to come home one day a couple of weeks ago and I was so relieved when he agreed. He came home half an hour later than usual and said I wasnt stopping him seeing the kids so I really dont know what to do. I would be perfectly happy on my own I don't care although it would be obviously hard with the kids. I don't know how to go about seperating. I'm on the mortgage but don't give a toss about the house so would move out but I don't have a job nor money, although would like one! Shall I wait till I find a job and save some money? I don't know if I can take much more, what if I don't find a job for ages. I'll probably back out like the weak idiot that I am if I keep waiting.
If anyone has read all this, I would appreciate any help you could give.
Thanks.
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Monkeychopsthethird · 29/08/2015 19:06
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