I've just started a relationship with a lovely woman, a single mum to two kids (boy 7, girl 8). I've met her children a couple of times now but I'd love any advice on how to behave towards them because they're both dreadfully spoilt and badly behaved, especially the boy.
I was over for dinner with them yesterday evening and they completely ignored everything she asked them to do. They'd get up in the middle of the meal and run about, play with iPads at the table, make rude noises, and so on, and she would plead with them to behave but completely ineffectually.
I tried to reassure her that it was ok and it didn't bother me, they're just playing up to get attention because someone new is around and they will settle down, but she was mortified. She says she knows she spoils them and is ashamed they behave like that but she's been alone with them so long that she's let them fall into bad habits. (Their father lives away and usually only sees them for a few hours once or twice a month.)
So, I don't know what I should do. If she asks them to sit down and they play up and ignore her should I ignore them, be strict and shout at them, make a joke and play with them try to get on their side, or what?
I don't think it's my place to interfere, especially as it's so early in our relationship, and I certainly don't want to do or say anything that appears like I'm criticising her (and I don't think I need to, as she knows she's spoilt them), but I would like to help and support her if I can. Any advice, or should I just wait and hope things settle down by themselves?
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