6 Months Pregnant Partner Has Depression Help?

[Bellasara121]

Hi!
This is the first time I have ever wrote on here so im new to all this. My partner started going down hill when I was 8 weeks pregnant. I ended it when I was 5 months pregnant because it got that bad I could not even sleep in the same bed as him. Due to he went extremely clingy and I could not physical move in bed. He lost over 2 stone in weight and always feels down in himself, and has gone pale white. He lives with his parents I was wrong how I acted in the begining because I was really moody with him which didnt help :( . Saw him the first time today in a month where he is no better in himself at all, his mum says hes getting a little better everday but he's not. Where she has now got defensive saying I dont think he needs anti deppresion because hes not depressed but he is. Where he wont help himself. I don't know which way to turn or how to deal with this?.

[spudlike1]

He needs help badly ? You need to be really firm with him and his mum
...but really your priority is yourself and your baby . What level of support do you have for yourself?

[zippyswife]

I'm afraid I'm not too much help here but I was in a similar situation.

Dh had depression when I was pregnant with dc2. It made me feel so angry because we were renovating our house and I was left with managing all that throughout a difficult pregnancy because he was depressed and couldn't help. I struggled and cracked on without him. We stayed together and eventually around the time dc2 was born his depression lifted. But the resentment I felt didn't go! It was a tough time and we had to work hard on our marriage but things improved massively. We're now expecting dc3 and things are on the whole fairly good.

I don't know what to advise but I guess we stuck with it. Worked through it and eventually cane out the other side.

Good luck and congratulations on your pregnancy x

[zippyswife]

Ps- I was eager for dh to get anti depressants but he refused to do this because of his job. This made me more angrier as he wasn't prepared to try to help himself.

Imo anti depressants could be your way out of this. Can you go to the gp with him?