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bridie69 · 28/08/2015 08:57

I have a lovely kind family who have been very good to me in the 8 years since DH died. So I am now in a better place and sort of trying to return the favour. A younger male family member-would prefer not to say who recently confided in me he has been the subject of homophobic tittle tattle in his (mainly but not exclusively) male workplace. I am shocked because it is an office environment full of supposedly enlightened types. And to cap it all the young man in question is not even gay!! People around him have just put 2&2 together and got 5. He is entirely unhomophobic himself but worried a. About the unpleasant comments..never made directly but gossipy, and not written so no evidence and b. That he is somehow giving the wrong signals out. I want to tell him the reason people think he is gay is they can't cope with the idea of a handsome straight man who treats women as people not objects and takes care of his health. I haven't a clue what to advise him about a. though..

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pocketsaviour · 28/08/2015 09:05

Are these comments being made to his face, or is he hearing them secondhand from someone else?

Does his workplace have a HR department?

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FriendofBill · 28/08/2015 09:09

Sounds like sexual harassment.

It would soon stop once they get a warning for that.

I wouldn't try to prove anything to them, or put them right. Just hit them with the full force of what they are doing through the proper channels.

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