Is any of this what you would describe in any way shape or form EA? If I put it in point form it might be easier to understand. (there is no or very little mega stuff mostly subtle stuff)
- Getting silent (not refusing to answer just not talking) treatment.
- Appearing very cross and sulky when spoken to.
- partner Not wanting to engage in conversation about a problem/issue says 'it's a bad time, I'm tired' when YOU want to try and sort a problem. No suggestion as to what might be a good time or no further approach to subject by partner, therefore nothing resolved.
- Being ordered in a cross voice to do something when you have done nothing wrong or not omitted to do something.
- Not being supportive in disciplining children or encouraging (older) children to help around the house when partner is tired and could do with help.
- Being told 'I thought you would have done xyz' when no one has asked you to do xyz in the first place.
7)Partner knows you have something to do, tells you he will do it later that day. No sign of it getting done and you say in normal tone 'are you doing xyz or shall I?' Partner says 'I'll do it if you want me to' (no, I had said earlier I was going to do it - you offered
) the procedes to let you no the job is a pain and let's get it out of the way.
- Forgetting to do a very important job that partner normally does, partner has asked for it to be done and left a reminder note. There is no apology to partner that the job was not done or forgotten, as if it wasn;t that important.
- Being told to F Off in an argument infront of children (teens).
- Ignoring partner's health issues or showing very little interest.eg just not asking 'oh how did you get on at doc, optician or whatever today?' when it is known you have a problem with something.Perhaps asking days or weeks later or not at all.
- Regularly being told you shouldn't moan/get upset/feel frustrated whe you may have good reason too. Being told you are being negative when you are being realistic/practical.
12)Not offering to help partner, when you are in a position to do so when you know they are tired.
As I say it's mostly subtle ( I think or it might be me being too close to the wood!!) and between this there is lovely behaviour. But when I read this as if someone else had wrote it I am thinking 'you poor woman'
