I know that I need to end our 11 yr relationship - and sooner rather than later. I have thought it through properly etc and think i know what I need to try to say to make it as amicable as possible (he can get very awkward when emotional) but I need him to keep being a good Daddy for our little girl (2.5 yrs)
I know i can sort myself, our child and our two dogs out without him - it wont be easy exactly - but I am really worried that my fiance will take it badly and either get in a mess himself (he has an alcohol problem - I don't know the extent and can be a little emotionally abusive) or become awkward about things / damage possessions etc. I am so scared that it will affect his relationship with our little girl and have waited until they have grown a solid relationship (she was a bit of a mummy's girl).
Basically I know it needs to be done for my own happiness but I think I need to hear success stories where the unsuspecting other half dealt well (maybe even became a better person?) with the split despite expectations. We are going through a quiet companionable patch now and I know that is the time to do it rather than when his mood is low - but his closest members of family are away so I will wait until they get back. So I can put it off for a little while but have planned the talk about 3 times now and wimped out at the last minute each time. I need to just get some courage that he will be ok I think! ...it's not because I am big headed by the way, I know I'm not all that lol I'm just worried for his health and ability to be the great Daddy I know he can be.
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LLG123 · 26/08/2015 14:40
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