I separated from my dh in 2012, divorce finalised in 2013. We'd been married for nearly 13 years and met at university. After the separation I met someone else and subsequently split up from them (beginning of Feb this year) after a relationship of around 2 years.
After being under a cloud for several months I am now looking at dating again. I'm on a few (OK 3) dating websites and Tinder (in relation to the latter no I haven't hooked up with anyone on there).
I have date number 4 lined up with a guy I really like tomorrow afternoon / evening. We met online. No firm plans yet but it might involve walk with his dog or bike ride or dinner in a nice country pub. Just to clarify by 'date number 4' I mean the fourth date with him. I've had dates with other guys (just the once each time) but haven't been interested in a second date.
This guy is lovely but I'm not sure what I'm supposed to do next!! I know this sounds utterly pathetic but I'm very cautious about getting involved but also really not sure about his feelings. I suppose he must be reasonably keen otherwise we wouldn't be on date 4...
No kissing so far, just a hug when we meet and when we leave. If I was younger (!!) I'd probably just get myself drunk and throw myself at him but we all get older and wiser at some point I suppose.
Would be really great to get some advice from others who have been through the webdating minefield.
Thanks!
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Dating advice at 41 - not sure of next steps (if any)
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Lostlou · 21/08/2015 20:17
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