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Why does he always shut at me? He says I complain to much:(?

(5 Posts)
Betsyx Wed 05-Aug-15 20:40:38

So I ve been with my boyfriend for nearly 2 years now. He s been unemployed over half the time we ve been together. I ve supported him financially, I ve been there when he had no one, prayed for him, helped him look for jobs.

He was moody & irritated with me most time would snap at me & I was advised to just be there cause he might be just depressed & insecure without a job. So I stuck by him cried when he was nasty to me.confused

Now he s got a jobsmile. He works long hours & we speak less & that s ok cause I understand we both work most of the time. I had really bad chest pains & I told him & he didn t really show caring in a way that I wanted.

He didn t contact me for over 24hrs. So he contacted me this morning & I asked why he didn t contact me when I was so ill. Not even a text. I thought I was having a heart attack & was scared I was going to die. He snapped at me & said he was working & said im always complaining so he hung up on me.

I can t describe how I feel. I m crying right now. I thought he will sort out his attitude once he gets a job but it seems like he s gotten worse now. No phone calls, no text. He only returns my calls when it suits him.

What do I do? I m so hurt. But I don t feel lovedsad

Joysmum Wed 05-Aug-15 20:42:24

He knows how you feel but isn't willing to meet your needs.

magoria Wed 05-Aug-15 20:44:17

You don't feel loved because you are not loved.

You were useful but he still treated you like crap when he needed something from you.

He doesn't need that now so doesn't even have to pretend to give a shit.

Chalk the 2 years up, learn from them and move on.

Better to be alone than in a relationship and treated like this.

ObsidianBlackbirdMcNight Wed 05-Aug-15 20:46:11

He's just not a very nice person. Stop expecting him to turn into one.

Sallyhasleftthebuilding Wed 05-Aug-15 20:47:09

Yep sorry, no love there

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