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EA Ex’s new relationship has broken down….shame.

(7 Posts)
Anxiousanne01 Tue 04-Aug-15 12:20:15

Ex was a nasty, EA (Very nearly physically abusive) alcoholic idiot who absolutely battered every bit of self-esteem I had out of me over the 18 months we were together. There’s so much I could say about him, we’d be here all day. But he is seriously, seriously damaged and messed up.

We have a couple of mutual FB friends and about 6 months ago one of them messaged me to say ‘uh oh, he’s found another victim’ To tell you the truth I was genuinely worried for this girl and really wanted to message her and warn her about him but didn’t obviously.

Anyway, pointless post but now, 6 months later same friend has said that relationship status has been removed, all pictures removed. I have a sneaky look and both their profile pics (that were of them together) have been changed to them on their own and I can see that they are no longer friends on FB.

If he was an EA twunt to her too, I sincerely hope it’s the case that she’s seen the light a hell of a lot quicker than me and got out after only 6 months.

I guess now that does mean he’ll be on the prowl for his next victim but hey ho. Perhaps if this one genuinely did see the light, his friends and family will now have to stop believing his ‘Poor me’ victim BS and start seeing him for what he is.

Zebraface Tue 04-Aug-15 12:25:18

Anne,
As you said pointless post. Don't concern yourself about him & his potential victims. A leopard doesn't change its spots.

Facebook has a lot to blame for our natural curiosity in situations like this!

Be good to yourself, keep walking & don't look back.

Jan45 Tue 04-Aug-15 16:18:14

Not your worry OP, you got out, don't go contacting anyone, they wont thank you for it, you need to move on from this and not dwell on it, easier said than done I guess.

AnotherGirlsParadise Tue 04-Aug-15 16:24:31

I could've written this post about my ex, except he was violent into the bargain.

No charges were ever brought against him due to 'lack of evidence' (photos of injuries, medical records and voice recordings count for nothing, apparently!), and since our breakup nearly 4 years ago he's been dumped by countless women smarter than me, for EA and violent behaviour.

I just hope that if he ever does get the police called on him again, they see enough evidence from the past to convict the fucker.

So yeah, I understand how you feel flowers

springydaffs Tue 04-Aug-15 21:34:59

Shouldn't there be a registry for these fuckers??

Cocalite Tue 04-Aug-15 22:05:55

No point in dwelling in the past - you just got to the turn the page as much as you can and move on

iloverunning36 Tue 04-Aug-15 22:37:24

Springydaffs I think they should be branded so we can spot them ��

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