Quick update...My 6 year old daughter had a few friends over for a playdate as she hadn't seen them all summer. Knowing my neighbour (who's an exercise instructor) has a daughter that doesn't mix well with this group, I tell the neighbour (Aerobics Queen) that we're busy that afternoon. It's fair enough, I think, as her two kids have already spent the morning in my house.
Upshot..AQ is furious and loses her temper, shouting at me in the street. Accuses me of having a party, not inviting her kids to deliberately hurt them and says I have never been her friend. At first I apologise and feel I have done the wrong thing. But a comment from another friend makes me realise that AQ is a control freak and i've accommodated her behaviour over the years, used for childcare and playdates.
AQ then tells her story to all our neighbours, all the school mums and to all her clients in every class she gives. Before long half the neighbours ignore me, and one by one ,many of the mums I know on a "quick hello" basis start to blank me. To my face AQ tries to maintain that all is fine. I then make my fatal mistake which is to slowly to withdraw my favours and friendship as I can't stand being in the same room as her.
I'm posting this FIVE years after it happened. The reason I am posting now is that my child's class has just been amalgamated with AQ's child's class. That means I now have half a class of mums who don't speak to me as they believed all the lies AQ told. I have tolerated this for 5 years and held my nerve knowing that this woman has spread lies about me all this time. I am always nice to people and have over time had some mums start to talk to me again. I do feel as though I have been bullied by her.
Any advice?
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wiseoldbird68 · 03/08/2015 17:40
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