Yesterday I was sitting on the sofa eating lunch. There was a dead bird under the trampoline in the garden that had been there for a couple of days and the cat was playing with it. Husband went and fetched it and wrapped it up in newspaper to throw in the bin. As he came back indoors, for a ‘joke’ he pretended to chuck it into my lap. I almost jumped out of my skin and my heart nearly stopped as I'm a bit squeamish at dead/rotten things. He just laughed. I am 21 weeks pregnant so I feel a bit more vunerable as well I suppose.
I followed him into the kitchen and said that it definitely wasn’t funny, it really frightened me. He halfheartedly said sorry but that it was a ‘joke’ and said I was over reacting. I started to cry. Maybe I'm a bit hormonal but I was very upset.
The day before he made a ‘joke’ to his friend infront of me that it had ‘all gone’ down there. By this he meant that my vagina has become saggy due to my age and having 2 children. If he’s happy to make ‘jokes’ like this infront of me, God knows what he says when I’m not there. I laughed along at the time because I didn't want to seem like a prude but afterwards I brought it up with him but yet again he said it was just a joke and I was overeacting. I have never, ever heard any of my friends husbands or partners ‘joke’ about them like this. If I did hear them say anything like this I would think that they were a knob but maybe I've just got a crap sense of humour?
My question is, am I overeacting? Am I just a drama queen? Should I just toughen up and get a grip? Obviously there's alot more history but these are the two latest incidents and I'd really appreciate some honest opinions.
I came very close to ending the 10 year marriage last year. I had felt very unhappy and unloved for a very long time. I got as far as getting advice from a solicitor and moving into separate bedrooms but husband talked me out of it.
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Husband pretended to throw dead bird at me. Am I overeacting?
Peterspan · 02/08/2015 12:59
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