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If you were to build a good husband...

(63 Posts)
CalleighDoodle Sat 01-Aug-15 15:53:43

If you were able to build a 'good husband' what qualities would you include?

Basically ive been wondering what it is that makes a good husband.

chamerion Sat 01-Aug-15 15:55:42

Well, what makes a good person? Kindness is the number 1 quality for me.

DustyMaiden Sat 01-Aug-15 15:58:14

Honesty, integrity, humour.

BertieBotts Sat 01-Aug-15 15:59:13

Strange way of thinking about it grin

But I think a good husband is:

Supportive
Accepting of who you are
Loving
Respectful
Not sexist, racist, homophobic etc
A good fit for your personality, your habits/preferences don't clash
Trustworthy
Interesting, inspiring, fun to spend time with
Good in bed grin

Can't think of anything else which isn't covered by the above.

Costacoffeeplease Sat 01-Aug-15 16:04:18

One who would bloody listensmile

WallyBantersJunkBox Sat 01-Aug-15 16:08:52

Honest
Trustworthy
Kind
Generous
A good listener
Caring
Attentive
Clean
Receptive (to mood, crumbs, etc)
Accepting
Willing to admit blame and say sorry
Respectful of others
Interesting
Masculine
Bearded
Big hands
Strong Arms

Mmmh!

FredaMayor Sat 01-Aug-15 16:14:08

OP, it's an interesting topic. 'Good husband' for whom, and in what capacity do you mean? For instance as a lover, co-habitant, life partner or co-parent?

We ask a lot of a husband or wife in the 21st century, don't we. People live so much longer than when the arrangement first began in historical times, in the first world women rarely die in childbirth, children usually survive, we live and work perhaps hundreds of miles away from other family members. It's all so different from a short life spent scraping a living and working the land.

I'm all for life-long commitment myself, I thinks it's very grown-up, but I can also see the reason that some people have a hard time with it and therefore look at serial monogamy as some sort of solution.

Perhaps the institution of marriage is ultimately doomed. I don't really have an answer for you. Maybe 'a good husband' is one that make you happy?

Beelzebop Sat 01-Aug-15 16:16:45

Kindness above all.

Coffeemarkone Sat 01-Aug-15 16:21:45

Kind but not a doormat - Handsome - Well Endowed
Financially secure - Good work ethic
Not racist, sexist or disablist.
Nice breath.

CheerfulYank Sat 01-Aug-15 16:28:45

It depends on what you want.

I wanted someone who wanted marriage and a family, was funny, liked to read, was religious or at least vaguely spiritual, didn't hate dogs, and wouldn't cheat on me.

Other people probably want different things. smile

I do wish he was a morning person though. We're both night owls and have fierce arguments about who has to get up with the DC.

SurlyCue Sat 01-Aug-15 16:29:39

Well i would aim for a good, decent person as a partner rather than a good husband specifically. Actually i'd aim for the person i'd like to be myself. In reality two of me would be hell grin

Dowser Sat 01-Aug-15 17:56:15

All the above except beards.

Good sense of humour.

Oh and at a risk of sounding Fattist and healthist, a healthy weight. Not too thin and not obese. I don't mind a bit of timber. I've got a fair bit of my own.

Non smoker and not a big drinker.

RainbowRoses Sat 01-Aug-15 18:00:28

DIY skills is a must

smile

Backforthis Sat 01-Aug-15 18:05:04

6 foot 5 + with good hair and a nice smile <shallow>
Guardian reader
Easygoing
Funny
Kind
Trustworthy
Loves dogs
Likes children
Can laugh at themselves
Loyal

sensiblesometimes Sat 01-Aug-15 18:07:32

What makes a good person ?

Backforthis Sat 01-Aug-15 18:11:11

A good person isn't necessarily a good husband. I have some lovely friends who are very good people but I'd hate to be married to them.

sensiblesometimes Sat 01-Aug-15 18:13:30

Hmm all starting to sound a bit sexiest Have you considered building a robot?

sensiblesometimes Sat 01-Aug-15 18:14:56

You could type in your exact requirements daily

ButterfliesnWaterfalls Sat 01-Aug-15 18:15:55

Ooo nice body (6 pack and muscle-y arms)
Great smile, dimples!

Pro-active father
Gentle but strong
Kind
Understanding
Intelligent
Good humour
Bookish
Faithful
Honest
Romantic
Recites poetry for me early morning
Helps me in the kitchen
Surprises me randomly
Loves to travel
Adventurous
Watches NCIS with me

Ugh- I Soooo wish there was a guy like this sad

SurlyCue Sat 01-Aug-15 18:21:32

A good person isn't necessarily a good husband. I have some lovely friends who are very good people but I'd hate to be married to them.

Excellent point!

sensiblesometimes Sat 01-Aug-15 18:25:20

All that butterflies said ... + smells of lavender and musk

WallyBantersJunkBox Sat 01-Aug-15 19:59:50

How is it sexist exactly, I'm confused?

It's a fantasy, and no one is really saying tadger like a roll of wet wallpaper, trust fund, Ferrari...are they? (Goes back to check thread)

All I see are lists of personal qualities in the main.

I'm actually describing my current partner. Not perfect but just bloody marvellous.

skrumle Sat 01-Aug-15 20:36:20

clean
no major addictions
wants to be a husband
solvent/financially stable (although I accept this is my issue and may not be a priority for others!)
respectful
trustworthy
always on your side
makes you laugh, and finds you funny

suchafuss Sat 01-Aug-15 21:54:43

Wally you have just described my husband.smile

sensiblesometimes Sat 01-Aug-15 22:00:58

grin

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