Firstly - we both work, our outgoings are roughly £2k per month, he contributes £650 to the family coffers, we are both left with roughly the same amount each month for personal use, extras etc. He uses his to go the pub/gym/buy stuff for himself/takeaways I use mine to family stuff, days out/holidays etc. He always maxes his account inc. overdraft every month and frequently has to borrow money from me to tide him over which I rarely see back (not a problem if I don't need it for something else).
We have had a some surprise money (few hundred pounds) and he has asked for some of it to boost his flagging coffers whilst I feel it should go toward our family holiday at the end of the month. He's pulling his face so said take enough to clear his overdraft and save the rest, now he's moaning that he should have more (this would be about £150).
I'm reluctant to just pass money over to him (I could afford it and would normally not hesitate) but feel that he's taking the piss now, he never budgets, moans constantly about having no money but fritters it away on shit whilst "forgetting" to save for important things like his dogs vaccinations/wormer/flea treatment (was one of the things we agreed he would take financial responsibility for when he got the dog).
Am I just being a bitch???
Btw - he does fuck all around the house unless its absolutely necessary then moans his bag off about never having time to himself/a social life/happiness etc.
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Am I being a bitch?
TooMuchJD · 01/08/2015 00:52
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