I would really like some advice please to get some perspective on my situation. My husband had a brief affair earlier this year. I was and am still devastated, but we've talked endlessly about why it happened, whether we should try to save our relationship or separate. We have three small children. We decided to see if it is possible to salvage what we have. It has been hard going but we are slowly moving forward.
My husband owns a bar, the other woman was and still is a regular customer. When he ended the affair, she continued to come to the bar regularly. He told her that we were making a go of our marriage and asked her to stop coming. It's a small bar, she comes on her own (although is now friendly with other 'locals'). She refuses to stop going as she wants to see her 'friends'. She has at times pleaded with him to let her continue. She has at other times told him she will stop coming and leave him alone. I have even asked her (via email) to give us our space in order to move on from the affair. We've both been compassionate and non confrontational. Still she turns up and it is really starting to come between us. My husband has even employed a bar manager so that he doesn't have to be there anymore, but still she turns up.
He has been an absolute shit, but he is trying to make things better. I feel this woman is still coming between us and it is driving me potty. I do believe it's intended to goad us. I appreciate she has been hurt too, but feel she has to accept responsibility for her part in all of this.How do we move on?
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wheresthedummy · 31/07/2015 20:54
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