Dp knows I'm deeply unhappy. We've had 3 trial separations in the last 7 years. Been together 16 years. 4 dc.
I was planning on telling him calmly that I need him to move out the first week of September. Unfortunately, I totally lost the plot on Tuesday morning & blurted it out.
A lot of the problem is that he's so shut down. We never gave a conversation about anything. I mean nothing!
For example,Our d's lost his place at his current SN school. The LEA have placed him at a totally inappropriate special school but I can't even talk to dp about it. He won't reply in conversation. He sometimes won't even acknowle I'm speaking!
I've had enough & need to step out of this ridiculous & damaging situation for the of the children & I
Now he's acting really shocked. Coming in from work. Not speaking to anyone. Gets straight in the bath. Straight into bed. That sort of thing. I totally appreciate he's upset & worried about what will happen to him. He has plenty of money so he's not worried about money. I offered to go away for a few weeks but he said no.
So do I cope with the time from now til he actually leaves? Any experience or advice? Anything others wish they had/ hadn't done when they were at the point I'm at?
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Waiting for dp to move out ~ advice please.
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Peppasmate · 31/07/2015 09:45
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