Morning all,
This may seem quite trivial compared to some of the other posts, but it is giving me quite a bit of grief and would appreciate some thoughts.
I seem to find that my parents are quite intrusive and feel that they are too 'in' with my life. It's hard to explain but they keep buying things that we don't really want, and wanting to do everything with their grandson. For example, my ds first day of nursery - they phone the night before to say that they are coming over to come and meet him, regardless that my dh would have liked to do that or that it's a grandparents right to buy his first bike - which they then wanted to buy secondhand
This is so hard to explain as it is nothing major that I could get really riled at, it is just little things that they ask nicely to do, but it puts me in the position of not really being able to say no as it would hurt their feelings, but i end up feeling bad, my dh feels uncomfortable and we know have stopped telling them things that we are doing, 'cos I don't want to have to face a confrontation....ie, my ds first nativity play. My dh and I want to see this together, but if i told my parents they would invite themselves along. It's such a shame as we won't even be able to show them the video, as they will make it plain that we have hurt them by excluding them.
The last straw has been that I have been informed that they are buying us a big tv for xmas, but we don't need one, we have a perfectly good one already We had mentioned that in the future we would like to get a big one, but not yet. So my dad tells me that a certain store has the television for us and that we will be happy with it, even though i have made it quite clear that it isn't what we were looking for. I just got told that it was a present and that we would be happy with it What do i do?
I know they mean well and have the money to do this, but i wish they wouldn't. Unfortunately, a lot of this is to do with them not speaking to my brother and his family. A huge row, not all my parents fault, that has completely crushed them. I feel very sorry for them, but the 'love' we are now receiving is suffocating. Any thoughts ? I really don't want to hurt or offend them, but I am 36 and I shouldn't feel guilty for wanting to spend time with only my family, they visit weekly for the day.
thanks
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yoda · 22/11/2006 10:19
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