serious matters are spinning round my head.
dh had minor heart attack in january.no cause was found,
he is fully recovered, as if it never happened.
then he had a suspicious spot, a biopsy revealed nothing.
last year he had whiplash from a fall.
Just to paint a picture of the last few months.
I supported him totally, emotionally and physically, in a calm and kind/caring way.
Even though it was pretty stressful for me, the constant appointments, hospitals and surgeries, I kept our spirits up as best I could.
every moment of the day/weeks/months were focused on dh.
now...here is the issue for me.
during this time ,my sister (76yrs)is terminally ill in hospital which takes me three hours to get there by public transport.
she is alone, no family/children/ and her husband is in care with dementia.
I go alone to visit her as often as I can, I have an appointment Monday to discuss what can be done next for my brave uncomplaining sibling.
it is immensely distressing when I arrive and equally when I have to leave her.
she is a tiny traumatised body in her bed.
BUT, this is the awful situation for me.
my dh, is totally disinterested in this situation.it is me, me, me as far as he is concerned.
he refuses to accompany me on the visits, I really need emotional support, the sort of support I have freely given when he needed it.
i am fearful travelling through a big city alone at night...I am an oap myself.
last night when I was talking to the hospital on my sisters behalf, my "dh" became annoyed as he had a face as black as thunder, and moaned that he missed his tv programme...the tv was on though...he was just pissed of because I was on the phone.
when I reminded him how I had always been there for him, he shouted "you should be anyway".
needless to say the argument escalated and I went to bed at 9pm, just to get away from this selfish self centred bastard.
silence today, I just don't know what to do next.
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wish i had support now....
iamsufferingnow · 25/07/2015 12:08
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