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Please help. I'm a terrible person

(8 Posts)
Oggy7758 Wed 22-Jul-15 21:05:31

Hi, I really need some advice as I'm sinking into a real bad place. I have been with my child's father since I was 13 I am 27 now, I know nothing but my husband - he worked away and this man I didn't know messaged me saying he saw me in the pub with my friends and we got talking over the computer - we spoke for a few months just innocent but then he started to be nasty to me - I am a model but I am very humble it's my job and that's it- he said I model for attention and was just nasty about it - he has nothing going for him his mid thirties and lives with his dad he has no job he lost it. He lost his driving licence for drinking and he has been single for 7 years just sleeping around and wonders why. My husband is the opposite he loves me and provides the roof over my head and he is so ambitious and hard working. I stopped speaking to this guy I told him I didn't wanna speak to him as e puts me down but I literally can't stop thinking about him. I can't sleep can't eat and I miss his conversation terrible - I have never even met him ! He knows me but I don't remember him. I'm going crazy I upload my modelling pictures to snap chat every week and he is always the first to view it and I just miss him but he is the worst person. He isn't even attractive at all his fat and just lays at home all day eating. Why do I like this fool? How can I get over it ? pLeASE help me ! confused

mrstweefromtweesville Wed 22-Jul-15 21:11:24

Cut all contact with this man, he's a classic 'Loser' and he can't bring benefit to your life in any way.

Get over him by immersing yourself in something else. Take up a new hobby.

But the main thing is, have no conversation or any other connection with him.

moopymoodle Wed 22-Jul-15 21:11:37

Seriously unhealthy infatuation based on aproval and attention. He was most likely somebody you knew playing games. People don't just find you online after randomly seeing you in the pub, hence the nastiness.

Stay clear and block him seeing your photos, work on why you was so flattered to have his attention as he sounds repulsive yet your not eating or sleeping. Is it the rejection making you think your crazy about him?

Oggy7758 Wed 22-Jul-15 21:13:03

He found me through mutual friends he knew my name . I think maybe the rejection is a shock yes . I feel upset when I think of blocking him

pocketsaviour Wed 22-Jul-15 21:17:35

This sounds like you've fallen for negging.

Have a read of this and see if the technique sounds familiar to what he's said to you.
www.newstatesman.com/blogs/voices/2012/05/negging-latest-dating-trend

Doodlebug300 Wed 22-Jul-15 21:19:29

Sounds like you need to get out and have a bit more of a life and make some friends. I don't mean that in an unkind way. You sound lonely and in need of validation.

Oggy7758 Wed 22-Jul-15 21:21:17

Oh my god you have hit the nail on the head pocket saviour !!

butterflygirl15 Wed 22-Jul-15 21:31:28

you need to block him from being able to see or contact you.

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