I don't fully understand EA to be honest. It seems that it can be interpreted in different ways, and so I'm not sure if I am being EA in one aspect.
I read somewhere that withholding sex to show displeasure of a partner is a sign of EA. But my DH comes home from work, tired and hungry, and only wants to sit and eat in front of the TV until bedtime.
Thats cool, I know that everyone needs to wind down, and I used to need my own time for a while when I was working the same hours as him. I don't mind that.
But what I do mind is how that he reacts if I try to talk to him about necessities. For example. last night I mentioned our DC's emotional reaction to something, so that DH would be aware of it in the following days, and could handle it in the best possible way with all the information available to him.
I also asked if he'd picked up my phone (he does that a lot, as they look alike), and whether he's expecting to sleep in tomorrow (we take it in turns to do the school run when he's got a day off).
He reacted with a huge sigh and flinging his arms dramatically on the wall, as though he was being spread-eagled for a police search or something! He was doing a visible but silent groan as he looked up to the ceiling. I could hear in his tone of voice that he didn't want to have any communication. He has always said he doesn't want to talk when he's going to bed as he's too tired.
But once in bed, this "too tired" person wants to play on the ipad, or when I come to bed, have sex. Anything but talk. Even if it's about everyday things and not deep and meaningful heart-to-hearts.
I don't want to have sex with someone who won't communicate with me properly. So I am not sure if I am being EA?
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I am being EA in this situation?
ItOccurredToMe · 16/07/2015 11:06
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