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Depression - am I being too sensitive?

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peanutbutterlove Sun 05-Jul-15 14:15:06

I was on citalopram for years for mild/moderate depression. Switched to fluoxetine during both my pregnancies as was told safer for babies, but have never found it as effective. Now that we have decided not to he any more children, I am making the switch back to citalopram. I started withdrawing from the fluoxetine this week and it has just made me feel crap: teary, tired etc. My husband went away on a stag do this weekend and didn't once ask how I was coping/feeling. I didn't think much of it, but then he didn't even call the kids to say goodnight before they went to bed. It's just made me feel crap! He's been banging on about the stag do for ages and I was glad he was going because he was so excited, but his friends all stayed over the night before and left the house in a tip for me to clear up. Of course I'm glad he went on the stag do because it made him happy. But am I being unreasonable to expect few texts to check how I am getting on with the med-withdrawal and a quick phone call to the kids? I don't know if I am just feeling too sensitive/vulnerable because of my medication switch.

Botanicbaby Sun 05-Jul-15 20:40:52

I don't think it's because of you feeling too sensitive, I think rather than feel crap you should feel angry at him. It's really selfish of him & his friends to leave the house in a state before they go off for the weekend and very bad manners to not bother texting or ringing to see how you or the kids are. Don't you agree beforehand what the arrangements are when he goes away? I would expect a call though I wouldn't expect them to be constantly in touch on a weekend away, just let me know they'd got there ok and checked all was ok at home too.
I hope you feel better on your medication.

pgtipsy Sun 05-Jul-15 21:15:34

Thank you. I probably exaggerated. They just left cups and plates everywhere, dirty loos, etc etc...

Botanicbaby Sun 05-Jul-15 21:23:40

Dirty loos & leaving plates everywhere is not an exaggeration!! How old are they? Teens? Sorry but that's not on. Why should you pick up after them.

WineIsMyMainVice Sun 05-Jul-15 21:34:46

I agree that it wouldn't be unreasonable to expect a quick text or call or two over the weekend.

WineIsMyMainVice Sun 05-Jul-15 21:35:20

Good luck switching the meds.

pgtipsy Sun 05-Jul-15 22:33:33

My main issue is the lack of suport... at a time I am feeling so shit I would really appreciate some concern from him. I want him to go on the stag do but I would just like to have known he was thinking about me and the kids..

cestlavielife Sun 05-Jul-15 22:54:03

i think he is on a stag do and isnt thinking of you. he cant really support you when he is away with his mates. what if he texts and you say "it is going really bad" would you expect him to rush back? he went with your blessing... do call other family/friends for support.

also if it has been difficult lately he may need that time away.

wait til he comes back, hopefully he is pleased to see you and will be supportive.

do lean on other people for support too. it is tough as a partner of someone who has or has had depression. easier if other people can help too.

not condoning his actions and not condoning his friends leaving your house in a mess, but presumably you agreed they could come...dont know how old you are/they are but they sound immature.

pocketsaviour Sun 05-Jul-15 23:16:50

I would be annoyed about them leaving the mess, but I wouldn't expect him to call or text unless he had agreed he would do so.

Have you texted him?

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