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Gone off sex since having kids.

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SweetieTime Sun 05-Jul-15 11:02:37

I had twins 18 months ago and since then I have really gone off sex. We didn't have sex very often while I was pregnant but pre pregnancy had a good sex life.
I am just physically and mentally drained at the end of each day and have no desire to have sex. I do love my husband deeply and he is a fantastic father to our twins. He has been very understanding but I know he wants more than I am currently giving him. He isn't a very affectionate person so if we have a cuddle he thinks it will lead to something more which is too much for me at the moment. So I find myself avoiding all physical contract which is so sad as everyone needs a hug from time to time.
I don't know what to do or even if it is normal to feel like this. DH has even suggested we go for counseling but I aren't sure it is bad enough yet. Anyone else felt like this and do things return to normal?

Sickoffrozen Sun 05-Jul-15 12:30:03

It can return to different normal but rarely pre baby normal.

Two kids at that age are hard work. Do you ever get babysitters etc and help with child care. Maybe reassure him that you love him and perhaps find the effort from time to time to have some intimacy. The less you do it, the less you want it and vice versa usually. Doesn't always have to be full PIV sex either surely?

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