I posted back in May about my relationship. Been married 16 years, 2 dd's 14 and 12. H quite controlling over money, never wanted to improve the house, lots of stress and tension in the house, he has been complaining to people for years about the state of our relationship. I just tried to keep going for the childrens sake, thought things might get easier as time goes on. H was sacked twice in 2014 so money has been tight. This was after running his own business for 8 years, racking up a huge tax bill and other debts. He was not good at chasing invoices so we lost thousands in unpaid bills. I work so we've paid the mortgage etc. Anyway, earlier this year H had EA with a friend of his, they kissed. He left for a couple of days then came back saying we could sort things out. I have had fantastic support from family and friends. (Mostly, apart from one relative saying she hopes I can stick it out)I don't think I would have survived without them. Basically we are living separate lives in the same house. We still haven't told our dd's as they've had exams, birthdays etc.
Everything now feels like a massive uphill battle. My eldest knew I'd been upset on Friday and was upset herself seeing me like that. I can't go on much longer like this. H says he can't afford to move out. I told him last night that the relationship is over for me and I want a trial separation.
Someone please tell me what to do. Or tell me things will improve. It doesn't feel like they will at the moment.
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sarsiem · 05/07/2015 09:29
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