Hi Friends
New to this forum don't know how to start
Here is my little story and I appreciate your time and advise
I am 40 years old was born and raised in India
Met my husband 12 years ago through a matrimonial website and got married
As we only dated online I realised after marriage he wasn't interested in making love
So weird but true , first I felt he might be gay or having another woman in his life but No
I kept eye on him 3-4 months nothing was suspicious at all
And all these 12 years apart from house hold normal arguments things were okay between us
He was out of work for nearly 5 years and I looked after him
I accepted harsh fact and learn to live with him without physical love
I always thought he loves me a lot and never even thought to leave him
Or never even told anyone about this as I felt it would be disrespectful for him.
We are not too bad with finances so I recently left work as well
Now since few months he suddenly changed, went out for meal with work colleagues 3 times in a month which never happens in 12 years
Keeps hiding his phone
Come home straight to gym and back around 9 pm
No consideration about me that I am waiting for him
I asked many times if anything is going on his life but he denied
But truth come out I found some text from a lady so he finally accepted he was seeing someone
he tells me he finds me boring
I discussed with my in laws and there was a big arguments, he got told off
He promised us that he won't see her ever again
Since he doesn't hide his phone but he doesn't look happy
Doesn't talk to me much, keep asking me to go to India
I am broken , he is confused
One day he tells me he wants to seperate and one day he says
I can live here but he won't give me anything
I am completely broken, don't know what to do
Can not think my life without him or alone
He doesn't want even chat on this subject like he is running away
We are still under one roof but I feel so alone
What should I do
Give him some time to think
Or go to India with my family few months hoping he will miss me?
( or risk is he would even go away completely forever )
I am not ready for breakup and willing to let go and forgive him
I even asked him if I would have found someone how he would have feel?
But no answer..
Please advise this broken girl
Many Thanks
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cmdrsparks · 29/06/2015 21:36
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