Hi. I have never posted on a website like this but I just don't know what to do and I'm hoping someone can offer some advice on how to cope. Basically, dh and I had been trying for a baby for 4 years. Things were ok between us, but I guess the stress of ttc was getting to both of us. Towards the end of last year I started looking at him differently and was having 2nd thoughts about whether he was even what I wanted; we're into different things and are more like roommates than a happily married couple (been together just over 15 years)
Then we had some work done on the house, all arranged by dh for a day when he was working and I was home. When I opened the door, my jaw hit the floor...this man stood there and even though I could see he wasn't that good looking I felt...something. He stayed for around 7 hours and did his work, then left. This was 7 months ago.
I cpuldnt get this guy out of my head, we had so much in common. Same sort of upbringing, same morals, we just sort of clicked. This didn't help with my feelings towards dh and I really started doubting whether we're right for each other.
Xmas came and went, and I found out I was pregnant. This was the news I'd been waiting for for 4 years and I cried. I couldn't stop thinking about the workman and I thought if I feel like that then obviously dh isn't right for me.
3 months went by and I started coming to terms with things. Then, I got a text msg from the workman saying he knew he shouldn't msg me but he hadn't been able to stop thinking about me. He felt the same as I did!!
Ever since then, my life has been even more of a mess. I haven't acted on anything but we both know how the other feels and text each other from time to time (which I know is wrong). He's now seeing someone as he knows he can't have me. I'm still with dh and am now 30 weeks pregnant.
Can anyone help me to stop feeling like this?? I want to be happy about being pg as I wanted this for so long! And dh is a really good guy, I just don't have that special something with him... I will never act on this but if anyone can offer constructive advice on how to forget about the other guy then I'd be so grateful. I don't understand why I still feel so intensely about him when I haven't even seen him for 7 months and in the big scheme of things, I don't know him! It's so rare to click with someone and have them feel the same way and the timing was just so cruel. Any advice would be welcome. Thank you.
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Married, pregnant but can't stop thinking about someone else
Loubie3788 · 29/06/2015 07:10
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