I'm hoping someone has some advice for me.
On Friday night I broke up with my partner of 2 and a half years. The first two years of our relationship were perfect, but our relationship became long distance at the start of 2015 when he moved to Yorkshire and it's all been falling apart ever since.
I just couldn't cope with the distance. I felt abandoned and resentful left behind in London. He didn't think I did enough to make it work and perhaps he is right. But I just felt so angry at him for leaving me, for leaving all questions of our future up in the air, and for not understanding why I wasn't able to act like I didn't mind. We fell into this horrible pattern where we would see each other on a friday and I would not feel any love or affection for him, and we would fight, then we would make up and by the time the weekend was over I'd feel all the love and affection I ever did. But then we'd go our seperate ways again and the cycle would repeat itself. It was breaking us both apart inside.
He gave vague promises about the future but nothing concrete. He moved back in with his mum and dad (he's 29, I'm 25). He hated his new job and planned to quit but still wouldn't discuss what exactly he was going to do after it. He had wildy unrealistic plans to have a career change and train to become a neuroscientist whilst earning money part time on the side. I just got so fed up with the constant moving of goal posts and never knowing where MY future with him started. I couldn't cope anymore.
The problem is I'm not sure breaking up with him was the right decision. I can't stop crying, I know I still love him and I can't sleep or eat for the anxiety that I'm never going to see him again or be with him again or do any of the things we had planned together :(
Do I stick to my gut feeling and just try to get over him? Or do I beg for him back?? I don't know how he feels about the break up. He was desperate to make me happy but we left on quite an angry note, so I'm not sure he even would be willing to try. I have made him miserable for several months now.
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allypally1986 · 28/06/2015 09:41
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