Reading some of the posts on here, its hardly worth complaining about.
I've recently met a great new man, great chemistry after quite a few dates followed by (excellent sex) and I'm pretty sure its heading towards exclusivity. But its also become apparent that he has a very healthy lifestyle. That's great. But its verging on what I think its the obsessive. He is vegan, training to be a yogi, won't eat fat, sugar, and a whole list of perfectly normal foods and seems a bit over-invested in his admittedly very handsome appearance and figure. He doesn't work (because he is training to be a yoga instructor) so spends most of his time doing yoga, gym training and cooking (he goes to 3 different kinds of cookery classes).
To be honest, while I'm enjoying the benefits at the moment, I can see it getting a bit wearing long term. I'm wary of getting in too deep, as at the moment I could just walk away without being too overly emotionally invested. And the thought of a stringy yoga-tastic vegan in his fifties or sixties really doesn't appeal.
Would anyone else feel the same way? Am I being ridiculously picky? I think I'm also a bit wary because he tries very hard to come across as a decent guy, being seen as doing the right thing by not leading on women (that's why he says he is single), and he certainly seems very into me, but he is also very attractive and seems to have a lot of women hanging onto his every word when we bump into people he knows.
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Great New Man but Not Keen on his Hobbies/Lifestyle
MindMaking · 21/06/2015 17:42
Personally (and apologies to any vegans on here 
) I've always thought it would be difficult for me to be close to a vegan, as you can't just 'pop in' to a cafe for a cuppa and a cake, or a late breakfast, or a cheap and cheerful pub meal without scouring the menu, etc. Then there are meals at friends houses (who might not necessarily have a good understanding of what can/can't have) or parties, or when groups you are in have a BBQ or bring and share meal.
That said, I acknowledge that's probably my issue 
With all relationships, you always have to balance all the positive things, against all the things you find a bit off putting and see where that takes you. The 'over-invested in what he looks like' bit doesn't sound an attractive quality either. Does he make you laugh? You you have shared interests? I wouldn't over analyse everything at the moment - if you are enjoying your dates / his company, then see where it goes, surely ?
Hey, as a vegan woman I take umbrage at the suggestion that I can't pop out to eat places - there's always soy coffee or fried breakfast minus bacon or salad without the cheese sorts of options
However, in your situation op I would tread carefully. He sounds like fun but not a life partner for you.
he was horrified! I didn't eat it...
In the words of that little nodding dog, oh no, no, no, no, no, no, no.
Why did you not eat it 
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