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Sex with new partner, how do I broach this?

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Ridiculousdatingdilemma · 17/06/2015 23:00

Thanks in advance for any advice on this one, I realise how ludicrous it sounds!

I've met a lovely new guy, really like him a lot, expect we will sleep together soon. I havent slept with anyone since my last partner and while i was with I had a breast augmentation. I must add here I'm only a C-cup now and had one due to a lot of volume loss after pregnancy and breastfeeding. In clothes it's definitely not visible so he won't already have guessed.
I just don't know whether to mention it over the next couple of dates (how?), whether to mention at the time or ignore altogether? As an aside I know some men hate implants but had them done for myself nobody else! I realise this is the most ridiculous question on here tonight. I think I am anxious for various other reasons but this is the one playing on my mind.. Would you mention it? Blush

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onedogatoddlerandababy · 17/06/2015 23:06

Don't mention it!
Unless they are really obvious, would he really notice?

I say this as someone whose friend had implants as a teenager due to an obvious imbalance between breasts and in a true 17 yr old way we all had a look and poke and consensus was we'd never have known Grin
This was over 20 yrs ago and I can only assume implants are way better these days!

Don't overthink it, if he's worth spending your time with, he'll totally accept it (if he even notices!)

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ChopinLiszt · 17/06/2015 23:07

Absolutely not. Your body, your choice. It's a non issue. Enjoy!

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midori1999 · 17/06/2015 23:10

I've got breast implants. I wouldn't mention it unless it somehow came up in conversation. I don't think it's a big deal. One of mine is currently ruptured and I'm waiting to have them removed. I did mention that, but only because it looks pretty hideous and I'd prefer to keep it covered but don't want to seem odd or prudish.

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Joysmum · 17/06/2015 23:14

I've had implants too. I was a B cup, I lost weight and literally was left with uneven empty sacks of skin and nasty scars from a previous botched lump op Sad

Mine are now a small C cup and natural looking (didn't want round and perky at my age!). I can't feel the difference and there's no obvious scars.

What does matter though is the mix of loss of sensation and hyper sensation. Hopefully you've not got that so it won't apply to you.

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Ridiculousdatingdilemma · 17/06/2015 23:34

Thanks everyone for the replies! I knew I was overthinking it but it's helped that you're all clearly talking a lot of sense. I'm worrying about nothing.
Who knew that something I got to help me feel a bit more confident would cause this much angst!
Midorri I hope you get your rupture sorted soon.

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Eekaman · 17/06/2015 23:51

Nothing to worry about at all OP.

One doesn't need to disclose ones dental repair work, so why this? It's all good, anyhoo, I'm sure he sees you as a person, and won't have the slightest concern about your implants. In fact, I'd go so far as to say he'll probably like them as they were chosen by you and are a part of you.

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Sickoffrozen · 18/06/2015 07:53

This is a man we are talking about. Getting clothes off is his goal. What's underneath is a bonus!
Don't mention until after event and only then if it comes up in conversation.

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flatbellyfella · 18/06/2015 09:10

I think the important thing to him would be the fact that you enjoy the sex & get pleasure from your lovemaking ...

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