I've been single since January, and decided to try online dating. I've never been a serial dater, so I have been surprised with the number of suggestions to met up etc. I've only had 2 serious relationships and so I feel I'm not massively experienced in the going on date phase... I am looking for a relationship as well, and my profile makes this clear. (I'm 29 and worried about the clock ticking).
Anyway. I've met a lovely man. He seems very honest (I know I can't know that for sure just yet, but so far so good). He makes me feel incredibly happy and I've not actually felt anything like it before. He's said similar things to me ie he loves talking and he is so excited to see me. We've met up twice so far (I didn't want to meet until we'd had 3 weeks of chatting, I'm not sure why).
There's another lovely guy I talk to but it's not as 'perfect' as it is with this guy, though I am a little interested. My problem is that the guy I like a lot is very busy and seems happy doing his own thing. He makes the effort to talk, and I'm the one who generally won't speak until he messages (insecurity thing I suppose!), and he is really excited to see me, but I just feel like I don't know how to date properly. My ex's were massively obsessive with me (first one at uni so we were very young) and the second one I lived almost next door to so from day one we spent a lot of time together.
So with this new guy, I don't know how to judge it. I guess I'm being very over the top and paranoid... and if I am, could people tell me their stories of meeting someone online and having a slow but ultimately successful relationship? I am worried that I feel massively into him but he's quite chilled...for instance, he can go 2 days without chatting to me, whereas I would be over the moon if he spoke to me everyday. Does this mean he's not that into me? Or is this normal? The other issue is that I am keen to settle down, have kids, buy a house, you name it. So I suppose part of me wants to know if he is serious n that level as well.
please don't shout at me for being so over the top..i know im being over-worried but just want general dating advice!
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I am dating someone from the internet and realised I don't know how to date - please help!
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ifyoutrymarytwice · 16/06/2015 15:30
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