Good morning everyone. So, I'm in a very very miserable excuse of a marriage. Married 8 years and 2 young dcs. We're at the end of the road, my DH is struggling to come to terms with this and is laying on the guilt, keeps saying do I realise how good I've got it? How much worse it's going to get, how bitter it will get, arguing over the dcs, how hard it will be. Surely we can save it etc etc. I feel like I'm being cast as the evil witch as I feel like it's like flogging a dead horse. Things have been hard between us for probably 4 years, we barely communicate unless it's through the children, we haven't had sex for 3 years and we've grown apart hugely. My self esteem has taken a massive hit, I'm in therapy myself, marriage counselling was a disaster as DH wouldn't open up and I felt like it was all one sided. So I think I've reached a point where I want out of this.
I've seen a solicitor as I'm a sahm so unsure of my options and I feel better now and more positive about the future but everywhere I turn I'm hearing stories and being given 'advice' about the children from 'broken homes' this is doing nothing for the extreme guilt I have already and I haven't left yet. I feel like my dcs are being damaged more from the atmosphere at home than they would be if we separated but DH tells me it won't and can't be amicable when I believe that it could be. Can it be? Or am I living in a dream world?
Also what happens in the limbo land between separation and divorce? I can't imagine DH will move out as he's already blaming me and creating problems as he apparently wants to try to sort it out while I am refusing.
God, what a mess. Sorry if this is rambling. I have so much in me and no answers
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Winniethewylde · 15/06/2015 11:30
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