Please tell me if I'm overreacting here.
I used my husbands facebook last night on his phone to look at something a mutual friend had posted. My phone was in charge, husband happy for me to use his. I go to the 'search' bar and it brings up his most recent searches. Husband is a bit rubbish with technology, doesn't really know how to work FB, doesn't use it much etc. There are only about 10 searches in the past year, but five of them are for a female ive never heard of, and two variations of the spelling of her first name. Three of these searches were made yesterday, the other two a month or so ago.
I ask him who she is, he lied and said he doesn't know and he hasn't searched for her. When I show him the searches in black and white, he then says its a girl who lives in a different part of the country who he speaks to all the time through work.
He hasn't 'found' her on FB, so I assume she isn't a user, but these searches have taken place when he's been at home on a weekend, so it's not even like he's spoken to her at work and then thought 'ooh, I'll have a look and see if she's on facebook'.
We have a five year old and a three week old, and I feel sick to my stomach. He has no previous form for this, he is an incredible dad and husband usually and he is, and always has been, dead against cheating. We've been together for ten years.
This isn't just an innocent facebook search is it? He said he lied because he thought id be pissed off (even writing that is making me laugh at how cliche it is). Am I wrong to feel uncomfortable about this? Am I overreacting to what he claims is just an innocent look on facebook?
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This isn't ok is it?
RaisingMen · 14/06/2015 10:36
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