Hello, sorry I'm always coming on here nowadays to get advice, hope I'm not annoying people
I've been dwelling on this situation a couple of days and just wanted some objective opinions. Facts: Left my physically sexually, emotionally and financially abusive stbxh 9 months ago. Police started an investigation into a family member who sexually abused me and other girls when we were children 6 months ago. I'm getting therapy from Rape Crisis and have a new job and am studying for a PhD as well as being a newly single mum to 3dcs. Oh and I moved house.
So the last 9 months have been exponentially harder than is normal for me.
I am getting judged from friends, family, school mums and work colleagues on how I'm handling the whole thing. The things they are judging and commenting on are: when the dc's are with their dad I like to take trips abroad, only 2/3 days but this is ridiculous apparently. I've been going to gigs/festivals regularly (again when dc's are at their dads) and I look like I'm partying too much and then recently I was told off by a friend, who has just split with her H, because her crazy H has been 'stalking my FB account and has seen all the partying and MEN' (paraphasing her text) and us giving her shit and won't let her go in a trip with me. I have had 1 ONS and am seeing a younger guy very casually but that is it and the only things I post on FB are about food!
All the school mums have stopped inviting me to their gathering's, I don't know if it's because they don't want to associate with me now I'm a lone parent (I was the middle class mum with the 4 bed house and husband before so fit in with them?!) or what.
My family are going on about how much I go out, which is only when the dc's are at their dads (2 nights out if 7).
I'm so pissed off and stressed. I'm keeping going, I go to work, I keep the house tidy, I look after the dc's OK, I study when needed, I'm keeping my finances in order. So why am I feeling like I'm doing/handling stuff badly? What are all these judgements about? I'm trying to deal with crap stuff, yes I like to get a bit drunk at hhe weekends but that's not a crime is it? Aaargh sorry I'm venting and this is too long!!
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weedinthepool · 10/06/2015 08:53
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