I'm a 33 year old man, and divorce has just gone through from my school sweetheart. After 15 years together, we separated 2.5 years ago when I left because she didn't love me any more and I felt that I deserved more.
It was a very weird separation, she has never said or shown remotely that she's missed me, we never cheated on each other, we never shouted or argued, she just stopped loving me and I didn't want our daughter to grow up seeing loveless behaviour from her mum as the norm. It also hurt me on a daily basis because I did, and still do, love her very much.
Although we are both much happier in new relationships, I still find it hard regularly because we interact daily to discuss our daughter, and I automatically care and want her approval and love, but she very much sees me as a distant ex. I love very deeply, and thought she did too, so it's very hard to accept that she can so easily dismiss 15 years, a marriage, having a child together, growing up together and all of the memories that we had.
No idea what to do to cope, I focus a lot of time and energy on my daughter, my career, my new partner, but it isn't enough to stop my heartache when she is so cold towards me, or my regular thoughts thinking back about the relationship and not wanting to regret the time.
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Hessen · 30/05/2015 11:03
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