Name changed, not for me, for the other people in this. I'm all over here, practically moved into Stately Homes having ‘graduated’ from the Emotional Abuse threads. If you recognise me, no problemo, but don't out me please.
My Ex had a child with another woman in the late 90’s. He has not seen his DS1 since the lad was a toddler. His ExGF apparently refused to allow him access. He says that she made the ultimatum that it’s me and my son as a package or nothing. I am about this, because Ex is abusive, a low grade narc probably, certainly a liar and won’t make any effort unless there is something he wants out of it.
According to him he does call her every so often and the supposedly recent situation is still that she still won’t allow direct contact unless her DS asks for it. Knowing what I know about Ex, I understand where she might be coming from.
I was with Ex for 10 years, (spilt up about 4 years ago), we have a DS (10) together. Ex left the country 4 years ago and has not been back. He is in some contact with us, when he has time/inclination, especially now communication is free as we both have smart phones. He sends money when I remind him to, and I have to, every sodding month. He remains firm in his believe that he had every reason to make my life a living hell, and that as I had the cheek to protest every so often the kicks and punches were justified too.
Anyway…
My DS knows about his brother, but I am fairly sure that this woman and her son won’t know about us.
My DS would like to know his brother, he has no other family and I'm fairly sure this other woman would not have had any children after her DS, so they are both onlys.
I have her number. Do I text her? Or Do I call her? I am fairly sure that the number I have is ONLY kept for Ex to have any contact, there is no whatsapp, no FB, no nothing linked to that number.
Or do I leave it alone?
I did say that I would let Ex know if I was going to contact her, which I will do, but I wondered what the MN consensus is and what should i be preparing for etc etc..
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Do I contact his mother? (DS half sibling)
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JennySayWhat · 29/05/2015 17:08
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