Me and my partner have been having problems for a long time, we argue about jealousy issues to the weekly shop. I really feel like the relationship is coming to an end now but I can't help feeling in need to know whether I'm completely wrong about things.
A bit of background, I'm 20 she's 28, same sex relationship. We live together and split payment for everything. However this is where things have turned slightly sour, I've been contributing £150 for food every month which I give straight to her and she pays for the shopping, however obviously if we split everything then she should be also contributing £150 however some months I don't even believe we use my half of the contribution let alone use hers also. When I brought this up she decided to take the defensive and say well if you don't want to pay anything you know what to do (as in leave) It's like this wasn't even negotiable, I wasn't asking not to pay I was just pointing out we don't spend all this money on shopping, it annoys me that something such as food shopping can cause such a big argument!
Anyway every time we have an argument recently she tells me to leave, which is why I have a problem with giving her the money at the start of every month, I feel like it's unfair that if I'm gone for however long and have to buy myself shopping all over again and plus the money I spend on travelling. I feel like because I'm younger she feels like I'm not even entitled to an opinion on anything!
I've not been living with her for around 3 weeks now and she asked me to come back, to try and sort things out, obviously things haven't been sorted and I'm going back home and suddenly she tells me make sure you don't leave without leaving me some money. I asked her how much money for the shopping she wanted, because I've literally been here 4 days and when she paid for shopping I bought a meal out which covered what I thought was my share of the shopping. Her shopping included things like candles, her cosmetics and cleaning things for her home but she things I should pay half of the full shopping bill! Not just for the food we had, for things I won't even be using! I know this sounds so petty an ridiculous but she makes me out to be awful for not wanting to pay for all these things! She even went as far as saying there is more dust with two people in the house so she will use more polish, I mean is this a normal thing to say? I understand I have showered here but seriously? She kept all of the things I've bought for her house and I'd never dream of asking for any of this back!
She has less money than she used earn and says I should count myself lucky she isn't asking for more money because she has spent more on me throughout the relationship! It's not like she's bought me clothes or bags or anything like that! She likes to order in more than I do and eat out so that could be what she's talking about but I would also pay for things and if I knew she would be like this I'd never have even taken a thing off her, it's not even like I've asked for anything! I feel like she thinks she can walk all over me,
I've never been spoken to the way she talks to me, the arguments are horrific! I've had arguments with previous partners but nothing compared to this!
Sorry if this is long winded I just really needed to vent my frustration:(
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Daniella195 · 29/05/2015 02:42
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