I'm a new poster here but frequently see posts about couples with young children who end up having less sex, less time for each other, fewer date nights, less money, less time for hobbies, less freedom and it results in relationship problems.
It's got me thinking. Do people, when planning the biggest life change they'll ever have, actually sit down and talk about the changes involved?
I do feel that a lot of unsuitable matches - and their consequent disintegration - could be avoided by having a chat before trying to conceive in which it's stated quite clearly, so both are on the same page:
"If we have a child there are thousands of emotional benefits - but you need to accept that you must expect less sex, less time for each other, fewer date nights, more stress, less money, less hobby time, less freedom, and more stress. Are you cool with this?"
Or do we avoid that because we fear that if they knew the truth about raising a family, they'd be less likely to commit?
I suspect it's the latter, but wanted to know what you think.
Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody
Relationships
The talk before having kids - What do you think?
onereminder · 28/05/2015 13:01
Don’t want to miss threads like this?
Weekly
Sign up to our weekly round up and get all the best threads sent straight to your inbox!
Log in to update your newsletter preferences.
You've subscribed!
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.