I met someone about 10 weeks ago, hit it off, started dating. 3rd date in he cancelled at the last minute and said that something had come up at work. I was pissed off but let it go.
We get on really well, have a laugh together but the work thing is becoming a major issue. I don't want to go into too much detail but he is fairly senior and his job is one where he can be called in for an emergency where often it does have to be him because of the seniority level. Additionally there are some uncertainties about the future of the department he works for which has resulted in a couple of his staff finding new jobs and leaving him very short handed and working insanely long shifts.
To cut a long story short he has only had one day off for about 3 weeks and that was while I was away so we now haven't seen each other for 4 weeks. He cancelled a date a week before I went away and I told him at that point that I couldn't carry on attempting to build a relationship with someone I never see. I was ready to walk but somehow he talked me around.
I'm confused a bit by the whole situation. In some ways he seems more into me than I am into him, he texts every day, calls most days. He did tell me that he loved me but I told him that he was getting a bit carried away as he doesn't know me well enough to know whether he does or not and he hasn't said it since. Whereas I have wanted to take things fairly slowly as I have a bit of a habit of getting very involved with new men very quickly and inevitably getting hurt so I've been trying to protect myself a bit more this time.
But if he's that into me then surely he'd be making more effort to actually see me? I got back from my weekend away on Monday and we still have no definite plans. He says he's hoping to be free on Friday but can't make any promises yet. I keep veering between believing him about his work situation and thinking he's just keeping me dangling.
I genuinely don't know what to do. I really like the guy and can see the potential for a brilliant relationship but at the same time I don't know whether I'm prepared to put myself through all this uncertainty for someone I've only known a few weeks.
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Rachyrachrach · 27/05/2015 20:20
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