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My husband enjoys wearing womens underwear. I found out by accident near the start of our relationship. Over the years he has gone through stages of lying about it, spending money we can't afford on it, hiding it, throwing it all away when caught and then it all starts again.
He knows that I'm not keen on it. I accept it as I love him and he's not hurting anyone, but I draw the line at him walking around the house in heels, stockings, the lot, around me.
We're at a stage where we can talk about it and he has some "outfits" that I'm ok with him wearing around me but he knows I don't like him spending lots of money on it and that I will not have sex with him wearing it. I tried it once, for him, and it left me cold.
Now I've found charges to his bank account to a website called Chatropolis.
It doesn't take much looking around to see they have a "Men in Lingerie" section, as well as plenty of other things.
He knows that this would be way too far for me as I have a huge fear that one day he'll want more from his cross dressing and leave me or cheat on me with someone he can fulfill his fantasies with.
He said he knows nothing about it. Swore on his childs life.
Lying about it would be worse than the act itself to me.
I said to him if it was fraud then he would need to call his bank, on loudspeaker in front of me, and report it. Which he did. The bank agreed it was fraud but also said it would be going to their crime department and there would be repercussions if he had lied to them.
I still can't say I truly believe him on this.
Do banks normally say they'll refund you when you make an initial call like this? Or must they have seen something their end to prove it was likely to be fraud?
Does anyone have any experience of this site?
I can't see there's a way to log on with an email address only with a login which I can't see that you can reset otherwise I would have entered his email to see if an account was recognized.
I feel sick and lost and I can't talk to anyone IRL.
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ConfusedAndSick · 26/05/2015 21:46
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