I actually know the answer to this one, at least according to Lundy Bancroft.
DH and I had gotten halfway through the day and hadn't really said two words to each other (this is typical). Finally, out of exasperation, I asked if he thought it was weird that we go most of the day without talking.
He exploded. "WTF?" He asked when he was supposed to have talked because he had been taking a nap and I came home and banged stuff around and woke him up. He said I hadn't said anything either, which I said was because he seemed like he was in a bad mood (again, not uncommon). He was walking around not talking, not making eye contact (which is kind of how he lives his life), to me, sulking. He said that was BS. He grabbed his bag and began to huff out, to which I said, "well, is huffing out of here angry the best way to handle this?" He said if I was really this unhappy I should leave.
I am seriously considering it. Except it's a holiday and I have nowhere to go with my cat.
He is the king of Passive Aggression, or indicating his disapproval without saying anything (eye rolls, withholding, isolating). He sits in his chair for hours and plays video games on his phone in front of the TV, not talking to me. I think I may have actually done it this time, and I don't really care.
Any kind words would be appreciated.
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