Need some advice re: lack of desire

[GingerDusk]

Quite a lot to fit in so I'll try and keep it brief! I have a chronic illness (but everyday life generally fine, just get really exhausted occasionally) work full time and have 4yo DD. I do most of the housework, household accounts, etc. we do have a cleaner once a week because I just couldn't cope with it all. Anyway, kind of lost my sex drive when DD was born - had episiotomy and 'things' felt/feel different, not in a nice way - although there have been times when things are ok. Recently though I just don't 'fancy it' at all and DH is, I can tell, in a right mood about it. I realise that no sex makes him feel rejected and I have tried to explain how I feel (ie: knackered) - I think it boils down to the old saying in that a woman needs to feel loved to want sex and a man needs sex to feel loved. Sound silly but I just don't feel 'cherished' and everyday life just doesn't make me want any kind of intimacy. As an example, yesterday evening (we both got in from work at about 6pm) I took DD on her bike to the local park for a while, DH went to the gym. Put DD to bed about 7.15, DH just got home, then I cooked dinner and we sat and ate, watched a bit of TV etc - DH made a couple of 'jokey' comments so I just felt pressured about sex. However, he was in a shit mood and I genuinely don't understand why he can't see that that's not attractive? When we went to bed, he said something along the lines of 'no sex again tonigh I suppose?' and I said no, I wasn't at all in the mood, given we had hardly spoken all evening. We had a half hearted attempt at talking about it, then he went and slept downstairs saying that I don't love him.
I am willing to go the GP about my lack of sex drive but is it all my problem? Anyone else feel like this? I do love him, we have been together 15 years, and I want things to get better. Thanks for reading.

[Quitelikely]

I think you should reassure him that you do love him.

Although I'm no doctor I suspect your lack of desire isn't really due to a medical condition but rather life has taken over. I do think with a family and job comes a time where you have to work on having some desire.

Putting the effort in as they say. Maybe a glass of wine and some touching to see where it leads is what I mean - the opportunity for sex to happen needs to be provided.

Failing that maybe therapy?

[goodcompany2]

How about suggesting he takes daughter to park whilst u have quick nap followed by relaxing bath. Then whilst you do you hair and make up etc he does dinner then you'll feel appreciated, rested and more receptive to physical enjoyment? If he's says yes, give it a go. Him making the effort to show he cares even if it is just for sex may help u feel in the mood. Sex is the special thing that partners share and what makes the difference between friendship and a marriage.