There is a vvvv long back story I am yet to share but basically have discovered my husband has been cheating on me since at least 2003/4 probably longer. We have 2 teenage kids.
Its no one specific. I think his criteria is a pulse and an orifice. Sorry to be so blunt.
Anyway - no one is rl has a clue and thinks we lead a lovely little life. I have known/suspected about certain past dalliances (but not the full blown story until recently) but never had the balls to leave because of kids,money, no job and not even knowing where I would go to live as we have been moving around for almost 20 years with his job.
We live on a military base and have savings, our deposit on our forever home when he gets out. The money is soley in my name because I am housewife and non tax payer.
I am at a point where I have a very small window this summer to get out and start fresh - so the DC are settled at new schools in september at key stages of their education. If I wait until after September,I will wait 2 more years!
I want to use the savings to just leave one day. Go back to where we were stationed last year (the town not the base) as me and the kids liked it there and still have connections and a "life" there we can pick back up ok.
My plan is to just used some savings to rent somewhere, pay deposits and all the fees. Once I am there I will look for a job but in the mean time I will need to use the savings to live off and bills.
Can I just do this? Or do I need to get a legal seperation order first?
Will there be any legal ramifications in the longer term upon legal seperation/divorce because I use some of the money for this.
The sum is fairly substantial and I doubt I would use a 1/4 of it to be honest.
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Just walking out one day - using savings - Is this legal?
baaaabaaaaabaaaa · 22/05/2015 15:58
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