...to some neutral people I'll never see! He's doing my head in. I'm 35 weeks pregnant with our second.
He's so grumpy all the time. It's been physically tough for me this one, I've had sciatica, have been working full time, commuting 20 miles, firstborn is 2, and I've had so many colds/infections I ran out of sick leave and had to work through subsequent ones.
Husband seems to be having a sympathetic pregnancy, he's been vomiting, he's been exhausted too and he's been very very moody. I've had to look after him as much as he's looked after me, only I'm the one that is actually growing the baby, his symptoms aren't real.
He works nights and is tired and extremely grumpy when he's on shift. We went on holiday a few weeks ago for our wedding anniversary, just after he finished a shift. and he was tired and moody, and complained he wanted to go home the whole time. It really hurt me.
He seems extremely annoyed with me all the time because I'm slower and waddlier and can't physically do as much. I've told him this is how his behaviour makes me feel more than once, and he denies it's true and says he's not annoyed with me at all.
I feel frightened of asking for help or taking rest, because I don't know if I'll be safe from his moods. He comments that I'm resting yet again, that he does everything, sighs, complains and just seems miserable all the time. I'm scared that if I ask for help and rest he'll just hate being around me so much that he leaves or something.
So the result is I'm pushing myself physically and hurting myself a lot from doing too much. He did say he can see how hard I'm pushing myself. I let him sleep in if I can, and I get up if son wakes in the night, I feel like I'd do anything to escape his contempt.
He blamed it all on struggling to sleep during the day, and has a GP appointment where he's hoping to get sleeping pills.
Apart from that, I feel uncared about in general, from everyone around me. I feel invisible and like there's not a soul in the world that notices or cares about my struggling. I don't really have any other friends or family to talk to, I don't have that kind of relationship with anyone.
Husband would like a third baby, although I only ever wanted two, I would have considered it for him. I told him I definitely didn't want the third after the complete lack of sympathy and understanding from everyone in my life this time around, I'm not putting myself through it again. He just said, "OK."
I'm starting to feel very worthless and a lack of concern for myself, and I'm scared of developing depression which I've had before.
I'm hoping this will all be over when the baby comes and I physically recover, although I'm equally scared it will get worse with newborn chaos.
I just needed that off my chest. Thankyou for listening :)
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mrshobbit1009 · 22/05/2015 09:18
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